THIS is What Women Want…

 

This morning I decided it was time to shave my legs…or braid them. Pulling that shaver from the drawer and wondering if I was going to need hair clippers for the job,  I realized my “hiatus” from dating has gone on for way too long. Just like I tell my clients, I stop when I begin to feel discouraged and hear myself saying, “All men….”, even when my heart knows better.

 

As I changed the rusty blade, I smiled and started singing one of my favorite Keb Mo songs, “Shave Yo’ Legs”. Every time I’d hear it, it made me want to cry and here’s why…

You don’t need no fancy tricks

Painted eyes or glossy lips

I love you just the way you are
Hope you don’t mind my beat-up car

You don’t need to change your dress
You don’t need to change your shoes

Don’t try to hide your natural looks
Forget about the cover let me read the book

Don’t get me wrong I like them heels
But the way I feel is the way I feel

You don’t need to change your dress
You don’t need to change your shoes

Go ahead be wild and free
You don’t have to shave yo’ legs for me.

Hunnybabe don’t starve yourself
You’re lookin’ good you’re lookin’ well

And I’m proud to have you by my side
Glad to have you in my life

You don’t have to clean my house
You don’t have to wash my clothes

Go ahead be wild and free
‘Cause you don’t have to shave yo’ legs for me

You’re an angel

You don’t have to read them magazines
You already know how to get to me

Just be yourself and I will too
That’s all we really have to do

You don’t have to be ashamed
You don’t have to hide your knees

Go ahead be wild and free
You don’t have to shave yo’ legs for me.

Now go ahead be wild and free
You don’t have to shave yo’ legs for me.

 

Yep, guys. That’s what we want to hear from you, and you don’t need a guitar or to even be able to carry a tune to tell us. I’m betting too that you’ve already tried over and over to tell the woman you love that you love her just the way she is, and maybe she didn’t hear you? That’s because many of us have a lifetime of really screwed up messages about loving ourselves just the way we are. Years of media, the cosmetics industry, and sometimes families who never knew how deep the shame would go into our bodies when they told us we were skinny or fat, or had ugly knees or hair that looked like dirty dishwater. And for about 1 in 5 of us, the shame that we carry from men who abused us.

 

It’s gonna take a lot of repetition for most of us to really trust you mean it. And, we will so love you for it every time and every way you can tell us just how much we’re loved by you… exactly the way we are.

Are you tired of waking up alone and ready to do the work it takes to find real love, again? Can you imagine finding someone who will love you just the way you are? You can do it and if you’re ready to find out how, I’ll be your guide on the journey.

Email me or call me to set up an appointment for a Complimentary Session to learn more about “Finding Love and Keeping the Love You Find”

Donna Bailey, MS

510-817-4242   donna@donnasbigredchair.love

Coach, Speaker, Writer and Expert in Dating and Relationships for Grown-ups

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