Would You Rather be Angry or Sad?

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Write the wrongs that are done to you in sand, but write the good things that happen to you on a piece of marble.

–Arabic Proverb

What makes us lose our minds when a relationship with someone we have deeply loved ends?

It’s not about the mind. It is about our broken hearts.  Though our minds will argue, point by point the pros and cons and the rationality of the decision we made, the heart just doesn’t buy it.

  When your heart is broken, anger is like a warm coat on a frigid night, serving as your protector against the winds and the pain.

We need anger to separate and begin again.

When we are ready,  it leaves us, allowing the sadness to surface. Trading in anger for sadness is hardly a good deal,  but it is only through that door that real healing happens.

So, when your heart is broken by any life event…getting laid off from your job, losing a dear friend to cancer, betrayal, or having to say goodbye to someone you truly love, go ahead and feel it all.

Anger is your friend, sadness your opening to a new life and down the road, one day when you least expect it, you will realize that you’ve begun again.

If you’re in the midst of grieving a loss, let it have it’s time. When you’ve begun again…I’m there to help you find the love of your life (again). 

Call me or email me and we’ll have a Complimentary Session together…then, you’ll know if you’re ready to begin again!

Donna Bailey, MS

Coach, Speaker, Writer and Expert in Dating and Relationships for Grown-ups

Donna’s Big RED Chair

510-817-4242   donna@donnasbigredchair.love